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Jennifer Lopez opens up about the “difficult time” of her split from Ben Affleck

Jennifer Lopez opens up about the “difficult time” of her split from Ben Affleck

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Jennifer Lopez finds “her inner happiness” in the months following her divorce from Ben Affleck.

In her Interview magazine cover story published on Wednesday, the multi-talented actress spoke to the comedian and discussed her journey to greater self-esteem, surviving the notoriously difficult entertainment industry and rebuilding herself after “her whole… world exploded,” said TV host Nikki Glaser .

In the spring, fans and media began speculating that the couple would fall by the wayside due to fewer red carpet appearances together. It was reported that the two were no longer living together and in May, Lopez canceled her “This Is Me… Live” tour and announced that she would be “taking some time off to spend time with her children, family and to be with close friends.”

“I can’t wait to get back out there. “I have the most understanding and loving fans in the world. I just had to be with my kids and myself and really dig deep into the things that were going on in my life,” Lopez told Glaser.

She continued: “And I’m glad I did because it was a really difficult time for me. Probably the most difficult time of my life, but it was also the best time because I got to work on myself.”

Why JLo doesn’t regret her breakup with Ben Affleck

Amid a difficult year, Lopez has taken “some time off” from work in addition to promoting her new film “Unstoppable” at the Toronto International Film Festival. In the biopic, she plays real-life wrestler Anthony Robles’ mother, Judy Robles.

Despite her satisfaction with her recent work, including the release of the album “This is Me… Now” in February, Lopez said her “whole (expletive) world exploded,” alluding to her split from Affleck.

“Sometimes I thought I had it figured out, and then life says, ‘Let’s send you something else and see if you fall for it. Let’s see if you really learned this lesson,'” Lopez said. “And I didn’t have that. I understand this much more deeply now, which doesn’t mean I won’t make mistakes in the future, but when your whole house blows up, you’re left in the rubble going: ‘How can I prevent this from ever happening again? ‘“

Lopez made it a point to spend time alone last summer to “prove to myself that I could do this. If you want something more complete, you have to be good on your own.”

“It feels lonely, unfamiliar, scary. It feels sad. It feels desperate,” Lopez said of the “hard” loneliness. “But when you sit in those feelings and think, ‘These things aren’t going to kill me,’ it’s like I’m capable of joy and happiness all on my own.”

“Being in a relationship doesn’t define me. I can’t seek my happiness from other people. I have to have the happiness within myself. I’ve always said I was a happy person, but I was still looking for something to fill for someone else, and it’s just like, ‘No, I’m actually good.'”

When asked if she regretted the “pain” of her recent experiences, Lopez remained adamant: “This is exactly where I had to be to get where I want to go.”

“That doesn’t mean it didn’t almost wipe me out for good. That almost happened,” Lopez said. “But now, on the other side, I think to myself… ‘This is exactly what I needed. Thank you, God. I’m sorry it took me so long. I’m sorry you had to do it.’ I should have learned this so many times.

Jennifer Lopez says she’s “not looking for romance” after divorcing Ben Affleck.

Lopez also discussed her changing views on love in her conversation with Glaser, questioning the maxim: “You have to love yourself before you can let someone else love you.”

“It’s like, ‘Oh, you couldn’t love me if I had flaws. I have to be perfect to be loved.’ That is not true! “Someone who really loves you will help you heal those parts of yourself,” Lopez explained. “This is what I learned about love, that it is a sure thing. You make me feel safe and when I don’t achieve the glory, you understand me and help me to be better because you have your limits and I have my limits.

While Glaser hinted that Lopez has “a new bar for the next person that comes along,” the “Jenny from the Block” singer said she’s not looking for “anyone.”

“People who are romantics and love being in relationships and want to grow old with someone think, ‘I have to have that to be whole and happy.’ And you don’t,” Lopez said.

Contributor: Edward Segarra